We all have a BUCKET which represents our emotional needs and that bucket gets filled up with things that make us feel good. When you are in relationship and care for other person/people we fill their bucket and in return they fill ours which makes the relationship happy.

When one person is selfish and doesn’t care they stop filling our bucket, but we still care for them and fill theirs. At some point our bucket gets very low or empty and there is just nothing more to give. That is when we start to accept other people who want to fill our bucket therefore our bucket is available.

When you stop filling your spouse bucket, there will ALWAYS be someone else who wants that job. If you live together as couple but you act like roommates, sooner or later majority of us will want more, it’s our nature. We are not animals, taking care of young, shelter and food supply is not enough.

Try it, it works

The best way to get back at your ex is to rise above all, get your life together, meet someone new, do what you love doing, be happy and above all DO NOT SHOW him/her any EMOTIONS and yes HATE is also an emotion.

By showing emotions, crying, begging, harassing, hatting, wanting revenge, spending money on lawyers to hurt them, all you do is feeding into their ego and they are laughing at you, because guess what ? They DO NOT CARE about you, so why would you?

Walk away with your head up, with some dignity and show them you LOST NOTHING when they left.

When you meet that new man/woman don’t make the same mistake, don’t take them for-granted because NO ONE OWES YOU ANYTHING especially AFFECTION. You got to give to receive, so do your part this time.

If you treat your spouse the same way as the day you married, most of you would not be resorting to “alienation of affection” idiotic law.
You alienated that affection on your own, your spouse will not be looking for attention from another if they have that attention at home.

Greet him with a kiss at the door, make love to him like the first time, buy her flowers on your way home, gees even “I love you” card for no reason would do.
Your spouse is not piece of furniture in your house or a source of income, or just to fix that leaking faucet, she is not your maid. Your spouse is NOT a plant that looks good in your living room as long as you water it once a week. Your spouse is a human being who needs to be nurture, adored, complemented, respected and adored to achieve, to strive, to be happy.

Make love to your spouse like you did before you got married, put on something sexy for him, put on those heels even if just in the bedroom. If you are his wife and his mistress he will not look at any other woman. If you tell your wife she is pretty, that she smells good today, notice her hair being done and tell her she looks sexy to you she will not accept other man’s attention.

Don’t blame other woman or man for your shortcomings, YOU GIVE HIM AWAY, HE WAS NOT STOLEN. You gave up your rights to that man or woman the moment you forgot why he was attracted to you in the first place, you took him for-granted. He sign a contract (marriage certificate) but if you are not the same woman he married, then he was married to your representative and he does not want YOU.

We all have one life to live, why do you think you are entitled to someone’s affection ? If it is gone then get on with your life, look at your own actions, look at yourself in the mirror and asses how desirable are you ? Asses your personality not only your looks. Your ugly personality, your controlling narcissistic tendency might be what drove him or her away.

In 99% cases it is YOU who should be blamed. So get over, Your spouse left you and does not want you, someone better come along and you lost. OVER.

So “normal” isn’t a good excuse to violate a family imho.