The Perils Of The Open Mike: Lawyer Resigns From Board Presidency After Calling Parent “Chubby Wubby”

1399930897000-RayCoteRaymond Cote, an attorney in New York, has resigned not only from his position as board president but withdrawn from his campaign to be re-elected to the Mahopac Board of Education. The reason? An open mike caught him referring to a parent during a meeting break as a “chubby wubby.”


raymond-coteCote is speaking with another individual during the break in the upstate New York school board meeting when the mike caught him saying “Oh I know, I know. This one here, ‘Chubby wubby.’ She gets fatter and fatter at every meeting. She really does!”

Cote was referring to an unidentified mother of six and PTA volunteer and produced outrage and calls for his resignation. After resigning, Cote emailed a statement to parents: “I would like to apologize for my choice of words after the close of the board meeting on April 8, 2014, which are regretful. My words were inappropriate and do not reflect my feelings or attitudes. I will strive to regain the trust and respect of the community.”

Do you believe that a resignation was warranted for such a remark (as opposed to a public apology) that Cote thought was private? It raises similar questions to the Sterling controversy over private comments that are accidentally or unintentionally made public.

31 thoughts on “The Perils Of The Open Mike: Lawyer Resigns From Board Presidency After Calling Parent “Chubby Wubby””

  1. Al Franken resigned? Meaning he quit? Or did he re-sign? Meaning he signed on again? Will he go back to Saturday Night Live? Morning America is too early.

  2. I think he is just a victim of bad luck. We all do stupid things sometimes, his only crime was being taped doing it. People shouldn’t call for blood so easily.

  3. Anne: I am taking my Viagra. And I am just getting off work from my four hour duty at the cathouse and I am going to need it. Today is the day we get “paid in trade if you know what I mean jelly bean”. That is how they say it not me.

    But I think the guy in the article is mean and if that photo is of him then he could be called a fathead but it would not be civil if I called him that. Wubbly Head maybe.

  4. “Rush Limbaugh Is A Big Fat Idiot,” by Al Franken.
    Hate speech? Be nice if Al would resin.

  5. Rule of thumb: Never say something “about” a person in your presence as an aside to another person. Not only will you look inconsiderate but you will most likely receive a rebuke from another outside force.

    Mom’s rule of thumb: If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.

    Looks like his chubby wubby mouth got the best of his chubby wubby behind.

  6. If it was actually his choice to resign it is rather a moot point. I don’t know how effective this man was in his administration of the school board but to see anyone brought down by one comment, something that everyone does in some context in their lives on a daily basis I’m sure, is harsh. Should we demand everyone who insults another lose their job?

    1. Darren – I think we all have to demand that all cell phones are turned in at the door and no microphones are used from now on.

      Now, let’s change the set up a little. What if he had said ‘She is the hottest mom in the PTA?”

  7. Definitely warranted. If you’re on the school board and you insult the parents of students, you’re doing it wrong.

  8. Chubby Wobby was a worm.
    Chubby Wobby liked to squirm.
    Chubby Wobby ate some beans.
    Chubby Wobby!!!!

  9. Big Toronto mayor Rob Ford has something to say about this.
    If you can’t take the heat, stay out of the kitchen.

  10. When I was a little fellow I recall the phrase regarding how “sticks & stones might break ones bones but WORDS could never hurt one. Well, that America is no longer true. Do you miss it ?

    1. buckaroo – there is a movement on some campuses that professors preface trigger words so the little feelers of their students not be hurt. Trigger word is the new racist.

  11. I’m a live and let live type. A diverse pluralistic society needs breathing space for free speech. I wish everyone wasn’t so sensitive to insults.

  12. He resigned, he wasn’t fired. It was his choice as were his rude words. He said it and it obviously IS exactly how he feels, so his explanation that he doesn’t really feel this way about fat people is a farce and he isn’t to be taken at his word. Words do matter.

  13. He thought it, he said it, he probably believed it.

    He should stand tall and stick by what he said.

    Mr. Cote would have taken heat (obviously), but so what. This would have blown over like most controversies do.

  14. Yes. He is in a public meeting place and has no expectation of privacy. Open mic or no open mic he was trying to denigrate the woman who was getting on his nerves. Wonder what he says under his breath in court?

  15. I think it is warranted. Being fat is one of the last unprotected PC classes. It is open season on fat people. If he said something about race he would have been vilified. If we’re going to be PC, there should NO protected classes. We must NEVER offend any person. Screw the First Amendment. Replace freedom of speech w/ freedom from ever being offended.

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