Girl Commits Suicide After Adult Neighbor Allegedly Fakes a MySpace Personality to Become Her Friend and Then Attack Her

A tragic case has emerged in St. Charlies MO, where there has been a horrendous wrong committed by adults against a child but no legal action. A chld Megan Meier is dead but neither criminal nor civil action will be taken.

According to the St. Charles Journal, the parents of a girl were mad at 13-year-old Megan Meier, who had broken up her friendship with their daughter. The parents (whose names have been withheld by the local newspaper) created a fake personality on MySpace in the form of a handsome 16-year-old boy named Josh Evans. They nurtured the relationship so that Megan clearly developed a crush.

Her mother, Tina Meier recalls her daughter screaming “”Mom! Mom! Mom! Look at him! . . . look at him! He’s hot! Please, please, can I add him?” Her mother relented and agreed to add him to her MySpace list.

These neighbors developed an extensive false identity for Josh.
Megan became obsessed with Josh and communicated with him regularly.
Then on Sunday, Oct. 15, 2006, she received terrible message from Josh that said that “I don’t know if I want to be friends with you anymore because I’ve heard that you are not very nice to your friends.”

The newspaper reports:

Frantic, Megan shot back: “What are you talking about?”

SHADOWY CYBERSPACE

Tina Meier was wary of the cyber-world of MySpace and its 70 million users. People are not always who they say they are.

Tina knew firsthand. Megan and the girl down the block, the former friend, once had created a fake MySpace account, using the photo of a good-looking girl as a way to talk to boys online, Tina says. When Tina found out, she ended Megan’s access.

MySpace has rules. A lot of them. There are nine pages of terms and conditions. The long list of prohibited content includes sexual material. And users must be at least 14.

“Are you joking?” Tina asks. “There are fifth-grade girls who have MySpace accounts.”

As for sexual content, Tina says, most parents have no clue how much there is. And Megan wasn’t 14 when she opened her account. To join, you are asked your age but there is no check. The accounts are free.

As Megan’s 14th birthday approached, she pleaded for her mom to give her another chance on MySpace, and Tina relented.

She told Megan she would be all over this account, monitoring it. Megan didn’t always make good choices because of her ADD, Tina says. And this time, Megan’s page would be set to private and only Mom and Dad would have the password.

‘GOD-AWFUL FEELING’

Monday, Oct. 16, 2006, was a rainy, bleak day. At school, Megan had handed out invitations to her upcoming birthday party and when she got home she asked her mother to log on to MySpace to see if Josh had responded.

Why did he suddenly think she was mean? Who had he been talking to?

Tina signed on. But she was in a hurry. She had to take her younger daughter, Allison, to the orthodontist.

Before Tina could get out the door it was clear Megan was upset. Josh still was sending troubling messages. And he apparently had shared some of Megan’s messages with others.

Tina recalled telling Megan to sign off.

“I will Mom,” Megan said. “Let me finish up.”

Tina was pressed for time. She had to go. But once at the orthodontist’s office she called Megan: Did you sign off?

“No, Mom. They are all being so mean to me.”

“You are not listening to me, Megan! Sign off, now!”

Fifteen minutes later, Megan called her mother. By now Megan was in tears.

“They are posting bulletins about me.” A bulletin is like a survey. “Megan Meier is a slut. Megan Meier is fat.”

Megan was sobbing hysterically. Tina was furious that she had not signed off.

Once Tina returned home she rushed into the basement where the computer was. Tina was shocked at the vulgar language her daughter was firing back at people.

“I am so aggravated at you for doing this!” she told Megan.

Megan ran from the computer and left, but not without first telling Tina, “You’re supposed to be my mom! You’re supposed to be on my side!”

On the stairway leading to her second-story bedroom, Megan ran into her father, Ron.

“I grabbed her as she tried to go by,” Ron says. “She told me that some kids were saying horrible stuff about her and she didn’t understand why. I told her it’s OK. I told her that they obviously don’t know her. And that it would be fine.”

Megan went to her room and Ron went downstairs to the kitchen, where he and Tina talked about what had happened, the MySpace account, and made dinner.

Twenty minutes later, Tina suddenly froze in mid-sentence.

“I had this God-awful feeling and I ran up into her room and she had hung herself in the closet.”

Megan Taylor Meier died the next day, three weeks before her 14th birthday.

Later that day, Ron opened his daughter’s MySpace account and viewed what he believes to be the final message Megan saw – one the FBI would be unable to retrieve from the hard drive.

It was from Josh and, according to Ron’s best recollection, it said, “Everybody in O’Fallon knows how you are. You are a bad person and everybody hates you. Have a shitty rest of your life. The world would be a better place without you.”

They later discovered that there was no Josh and the people responsible with not only adults but their neighbors — according to a neighbor.

The neighbor from down the street, a single mom with a daughter the same age as Megan, informed the Meiers that Josh Evans never existed.

She told the Meiers that Josh Evans was created by adults, a family on their block. These adults, she told the Meiers, were the parents of Megan’s former girlfriend, the one with whom she had a falling out. These were the people who’d asked the Meiers to store their foosball table.

The single mother, for this story, requested that her name not be used. She said her daughter, who had carpooled with the family that was involved in creating the phony MySpace account, had the password to the Josh Evans account and had sent one message – the one Megan received (and later retrieved off the hard drive) the night before she took her life.

“She had been encouraged to join in the joke,” the single mother said.

The single mother said her daughter feels the guilt of not saying something sooner and for writing that message. Her daughter didn’t speak out sooner because she’d known the other family for years and thought that what they were doing must be OK because, after all, they were trusted adults.

On the night the ambulance came for Megan, the single mother said, before it left the Meiers’ house her daughter received a call. It was the woman behind the creation of the Josh Evans account. She had called to tell the girl that something had happened to Megan and advised the girl not to mention the MySpace account.

. . . “I know that they did not physically come up to our house and tie a belt around her neck,” Tina says. “But when adults are involved and continue to screw with a 13-year-old – with or without mental problems – it is absolutely vile.

“She wanted to get Megan to feel like she was liked by a boy and let everyone know this was a false MySpace and have everyone laugh at her.

“I don’t feel their intentions were for her to kill herself. But that’s how it ended.”

‘GAINING MEGAN’S CONFIDENCE’

That same day, the family down the street tried to talk to the Meiers. Ron asked friends to convince them to leave before he physically harmed them.

In a letter dated Nov. 30, 2006, the family tells Ron and Tina, “We are sorry for the extreme pain you are going through and can only imagine how difficult it must be. We have every compassion for you and your family.”

It turns out that these neighbors were friends. The Meiers even agreed to allow the family to use their storage.

No criminal charges are being brought in the case, which is tragic but understandable. It is not a crime to be monstrous and mean. However, Megan’s now divorced parents have declined to sue in torts for this alleged outrage. While it would be a difficult, it is not an impossible case. There can be novel claims of negligence in such a case. There is also intentional infliction of emotional distress claims that could be attempted as part of a wrongful death claim. (The parents themselves may even be able to claim intentional or negligent infliction given their close family relationship and proxmity to the death — though this would also be novel).

In the meantime, the Meiers are getting a divorce and Ron Meier is facing criminal charges for driving his truck across the lawn of the family, which was caught on tape by a security camera the neighbors installed on their home.

What is equally amazing is that the newspaper has withheld the names of these responsible adults. While it is understandable that they want to protect the daughter of these people, it is important for the public to knew if there are adults in their community who act in this fashion. Newspapers should not protect adults from well-earned stigma. There is no hesitation to reveal the identity of an adult who is found to be using the internet for sexual abuse. This would constitute a clear form of mental abuse committed on a minor. Yet, the responsible adults are able to continue in anonymity. A neighbors is quoted as saying that she has no idea who in the neighborhood was responsible.

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30 thoughts on “Girl Commits Suicide After Adult Neighbor Allegedly Fakes a MySpace Personality to Become Her Friend and Then Attack Her

  1. i think just because she had ADD didnt make her have bad choices, i have ADD and yes i do make bad choices but i make them on my own and maybe they are impulsive but this medical is not and excuse and it is sad wat happen it really is but i think anyone might do tht if tht was their situation but the choice was hers not her focusing disorder.

  2. This story is so saddenin, but for the parents not to press charges thats ridiculous, Who cares if their friends. Obviously their not very good friends if their sitting back mentally abusing their daughter. That girl had to’ve been so depressed to do stuff like that. Why would they ignore her like that? its amazing how CRUEL people can be….Even children to children!!

  3. Well friends, this is America too. We’re all in this together. We need to find away to transform our bitterness into helpful actions. We’re a selfish thoughtful lot we are … and we need to chill … and we need to heal.

    Perhaps the graffiti bloggers will pass by on this one.

  4. After reading this horror story, I am very grateful that my own son has NO idea what myspace.com IS. He doesn’t go on the internet except for educational purposes, when he is given homework assignments, and I directly supervise the time he is online. We search for the necessary information, and log off when we have it.

    I’m not sure what, if anything, will happen in this tragic case. The parents could try filing suit against the adult abusers, or pressing criminal charges as well, but they might not bring Megan’s parents the results they want. I hope something will be done, I’m just not sure what it could be.

  5. I don’t know how that women can live with herself knowing that a young girl died because of her. I think that there should be a law that will punish those who are involved in cyber bullying. i mean really it might have been a joke to one person but is it really worth someones life. just hearing this story is like i can almost feel the familys pain. This should never happen again.

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  7. The parents that made that girl kill her self should be hannged! how are they just now finging out that shes dead?
    people these days are fucking ignorant! just because your daughters arnt friends any more dosnt mean you drive the other girl to kill her self thats the worst any parent could do to a childs ex friends… God even i wouldnt do that. they should go to jail. wonder how that girl feels about her ex girl friend being killed by her parents …

  8. Forgiveness can be given without being asked for… nothing can come from getting revenge but more chaos in the world. People who advocate revenge are as wrong as the people who were involved in this hoax. Spread love and not hate. People who seek revenge bring more chaos to our world and that’s why every year is worse than before because it’s simple to succumb to wrong-doing. I can’t help your ignorance Patty, but I can and will pray that you understand what I’m saying…

  9. La-la-lala…

    These people are not asking for forgiveness. In fact, they are not even offering validation to the Meier family.

    The Meir’s beautiful eldest teenage daughter is dead after being betrayed by people with whom she (and they) had had close personal relationships.

    Perhaps something good will come out of the Meir’s tragedy.

    Let them figure out what that will be, and support that.

  10. All the injustices in our world should teach us not to judge but to act in a manner that betters oneself and environment. Although I feel that what these individuals did was wrong, I do believe in the power of forgiveness also. My heart goes out to the Meier Family and those close to Megan. I believe that even if these idividuals don’t receive any persecution, they will be reminded day in and day out of what they took part in and I believe that is the worse punishment for them. We should try not to add to the negativity, but try to prevent as much as we can. Everyday I hear about more and more injustices and it breaks my heart the children have to learn and grow in a world like today’s. Let’s make a difference and love, live, give, and forgive each and everyday for the rest of our lives.

  11. I wouldn’t classify Megan’s case on strictly an Internet basis, either.

    The Internet was the vehicle, the tool – the mode, if you will.

    The charge of endangerment goes to negligence and/or intent ie motive.

    The successful prosecution stands on those issues as well as the evidence.

    The town’s recent ordinance is a local response to public outcry.

  12. On Wednesday, October 21st, city officials enacted an ordinance designed to address the public outcry for justice in the Megan Meier tragedy. The six member Board of Aldermen made Internet harassment a misdemeanor, punishable by up to a $500 fine and 90 days in jail.

    Does this new law provide any justice for Megan? Does this law provide equitable relief for a future victim or actually weaken the current law?

    I reject the premise of this new law and believe it completely misses the mark. The reasoning behind this opinion is that city officials have consistently treated this case as an Internet harassment case instead of a child welfare/exploitation case.

    Classifying this case a harassment issue completely fails to address the most serious aspects of the methods Lori Drew employed to lead this youth to her demise. The Vice disagrees that harassment was even a factor in this case until just a couple of days before Megan’s death.

    Considering this case a harassment issue is incorrect because during the 5 weeks Lori Drew baited and groomed her victim, the attention was NOT unwanted attention. It was not harassment at all. It was invited attention. Megan participated in the conversations willingly because she was lured, manipulated and exploited without her knowledge.

    This law willfully sets a precedent that future child exploiters and predators can use to reclassify their cases to harassment issues. In effect, the law enacted to give Megan justice, may make her even more vulnerable. So long as the child victim doesn’t tell the predator to stop, even a harassment charge may not stick with the right circumstances and a good defender.

    Every aspect of this case follows the same procedural requirement used to convict a Child Predator. A child was manipulated by an adult. A child was engaged in sexually explicit conversation (as acknowledged by Lori Drew herself). An adult imposed her will on a child by misleading her, using a profile designed to sexually or intimately attract the 13 year old Megan.

    Lori then utilized the power she had gained over this child to cause significant distress and endangerment to that child. She even stipulated to many of these activities in the police report she filed shortly after Megan’s death.

    We can go on and on here, but the parallels between this case and many other child predator cases that are successfully prosecuted bear striking similarities.

    Child Predator laws do not require much more than simply proving that an adult has engaged a minor in sexually explicit conversation. Lori Drew has already stipulated that her conversations with Megan were sometimes sexual for a child Megan’s age.

    City officials who continue to ignore this viable, documented admission and continue to address this issue as harassment are intentionally burying their heads in the sand, when the solution is staring them right in the face. Why?

    On June 5th, 2006, Governor Matt Blunt signed into law stiff penalties for convicted sex offenders. The Vice believes that officials continually reject a child predator classification of this case in order to keep the penalty of this offense out of this harsher realm.

    Opponents of this law are active in defeating this law not by changing it, but by disqualifying cases like Megan’s from ever being heard.

    There are several other child exploitation laws on the books. To date, none of them have even been considered by City, State and Federal officials in this case. I’m outraged that a motion was never even filed, so that the case could at least be argued before a judge or jury.

    Those satisfied with this response out of Missouri officials need to think through the effect this law will truly have. It quite honestly has the potential to directly undermine Jessica’s law. It quiet easily gives prosecutors a way out of prosecuting child endangerment and child predator cases in the future.

    Beware the wolf in sheep’s clothing here.

    Danny Vice
    http://weeklyvice.blogspot.com

  13. I’d go for child endangerment. Possibly, reckless endangerment!

    She(Megan) could have had a reasonably predictable nervous breakdown instead of offing herself in the closet.

    These two girls were teenage friends AND confidantes in a snit.
    The adults who concocted the revenge sound like social morons
    ie bullies to me.

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