We have previously discussed rulings where fathers have contested the obligation to pay child support for children conceived in affairs or where they were simply sperm donors. The latest case in Canada involves a man who was ordered to pay child support for three out of four children who were proven not to be his own biological offspring. Indeed, DNA tests found that his ex-wife had the three girls by three different fathers. Only the boy was found to be his biological progeny.
The man and his wife of 16 years separated in April 2010 and he asked for a DNA test. His son aged 9 was found to be his, but his daughters aged 12, 14, and 16 were found to have three different fathers. Those fathers have not been asked to pay child support by the ex-wife.
Source: Toronto Sun
You people seem to miss the point of family unity… The children have always looked to this person as the dad… Regardless if its biological….. Anyone or almost anyone can father a child… Not everyone can be a dad…
There is a big difference between a biological father and a Daddy. This guy was the children’s Daddy until he got divorced, then he wants to play a biology card. Unless he was a total a$$, I imagine those kids love him and see him as their Daddy. It is not their fault their mom had an affair.
On the other hand, even if he is a total a$$, and it is beginning to look that way, he needs to pay anyway. This is how kids become estranged. This guy sounds like my former son-in-law. The kids were his with no doubt….both of them look(ed) just like him, especially his son. However, when we lost my grandson, he refused to pay any funeral or burial expenses at all. He demanded to have the right to say what was engraved on his headstone and a memorial bench, but when asked about money to pay for the extra engraving he demanded, we got crickets. As a matter of fact, when a family friend found out about it she set up a fundraiser and we got the money for his stone and bench in a matter of minutes. My granddaughter called her father and asked him to contribute to the fundraiser for her little brother, even if it was just ten or twenty dollars. She does not have a job, but she and her fiancee scraped together their last $20 to throw in. Her father flatly told her “no” when she called him. He has a six figure income.
I cannot say what I really think and manage to keep it civil, but let’s just say I have an opinion about fathers like this.
http://www.dailykos.com/story/2012/01/24/1058157/-Let-s-buy-a-gravestone-for-Otteray-Scribe-s-grandson-UPDATED-WE-DID-IT?detail=hide
http://www.dailykos.com/story/2012/03/26/1078039/-The-Grieving-Room-It-was-one-year-ago?detail=hide
Mike, it should be very easy to change. If the children are proven by DNA to NOT be sired by the man, he shouldn’t be required to pay support. Period.
randyjet,
Very well said.
However, I hope Hector doesn’t read your post. In addition to his child support issue and obvious overall bad judgment, he must learn that you think he’s fat and ugly. 😉
For 12-16 years those daughters were his. Now when it comes time for child support he denies them. What scum.
There was a case a few years ago where dad fought for custody of two boys, but not their sister. She was born before the marriage but was adopted by dad. He didn’t want custody of sis until he found out that he had to pay child support for her regardless. Then he wanted custody of her too. In the end, mom retained custody, visitation for dad who had to pay child support for all three except when he had the kids (mom had to maintain the household without that support while they were gone). Sis never did take part in the visitation, her choice.
However, it is a split infinitive.
Gene,
You did have to work that non-acceptable Scrabble word in there didn’t you? In a complete sentence, with a subject, verb and everything. Cool beans!
Why doesn’t the father want to pay child support? Imagine learning your father rejects you when he learns you aren’t “his”.
Fractally wrong.
I’d refuse, and leave the country…..
This is quite penal.
could the ex bring a case against mom for fraud?
As the parent of an adopted daughter, my wife liked to say she grew in her heart, not under it. No kid was ever more loved. She helps keep me sane. Now that Mama is gone, we lean on each other.
It is a terrible situation, especially for the kids and the husband. Yet I don’t know how you can change it. From the perspective of society the kids must be cared for. As for the deceived father, I believe that any person who raises a child from infancy, despite the DNA donor, loves that child as if it were their own which in emotional fact it is.
This is normal in most states, unless you are getting a divorce before the childs birth and can prove during that process that the child in not yours. I knew one poor guy I worked with who was not a great catch since he was fat and ugly, but he had a good very well paying job. His wife was a knockout, young and really beautiful. So they get married, and a few months down the road, she takes off to live with another guy. We told Hector to get a divorce ASAP, or at least file. He said NO she will come back, since she loves me! She came back alright, pregnant with the other guys kid. She lived with him until she delivered, using his health insurance benefits, then one week after the birth, SHE filed for divorce, kicked him out of their house, and her lover moved in. Hector got to pay child support for the kid until 18 or 21 if in college for another mans child at a high rate of child support too, so that she and her boyfriend did not have to work either. Most laws regard ANY child born while married as the husbands legally. There are NO exceptions, and this is as it should be.
The sanctity of the marriage…. Is more important than the child’s biological fathers…. It makes no sense…. But many people have affairs that result in children….. If married they are stuck…. Unless… They are getting a divorce and the child’s biological parent is willing to step up to the plate and take responsibility….. In Michigan it’s called a Serafin hearing…. I think that’s the name…
After 16 yrs he asks for a paternity test? That must have been some humdinger of a marriage that allowed for affairs with at least 3 different men. I feel for the kids.
Can someone please explain how that was justified by the court? I realize that the biological fathers may not be found (certainly not without the help of the mother) or that finding them would open up all sorts of entanglements for those poor girls. Still I just don’t see how a judge could justify this ruling.
wow, the only people who lose are the 3 daughters. They thought the guy was their father. How devistating is that going to be?
There is a reason for “bourgeois” morality.
Just plan wrong.