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Massachusetts Couple Announces That It Will Raise 5-Year-Old Biological Girl As A Boy In Controversial Transgender Case

Gender_differences_male_femaleWe have previously discussed the issues surrounding decisions to raise children according to their non-biological sex at a young age. Now, a Massachusetts couple has decided that their five-year-old daughter must be a boy and has decided to raise the child a such. I will readily admit that I am not an expert in this field, but as a parent of four I find such a decision to be highly troubling and premature. A five-year-old child seems far far too early to make such an extreme change. Indeed, this determination was made a year earlier.

The child is now called Jack Lemay rather than Mia Lemay. The change occurred after, at age four, the parents took the child to a family therapy team which concluded that the four-year-old was transgender.

The mother, Mimi, insisted that what she saw as a “psychological burden that I don’t think anyone should have to deal with, especially not my child.” She said that the child began early on saying that she liked boy things and saying that she was a boy. The father, Joe, said that “he was showing real signs of a lot of shame and self-hatred.” Now, as Jacob, they say that the child is thriving.

They are indeed the parents and must act according to their best judgment for their child. However, as a friend, I would have strongly discouraged such a change at such an early age.

What do you think?

Source: CBS

373 thoughts on “Massachusetts Couple Announces That It Will Raise 5-Year-Old Biological Girl As A Boy In Controversial Transgender Case”

  1. I. Annie

    Transgender or not, she is far from gorgeous.

    Beauty, I suppose, is in the eye of the beholder. To me, she looks like a Teamster with makeup and a skirt.

  2. Squeeky,

    Impressive list.

    This is interesting.

    So, if the left has a proclivity for alarmism and lying, what would be the right’s counter sin?

    I’m thinking it’s the act of being overly dismissive of issues that demand attention.

    For example, because the left has been overly alarmist about global warming, demanding that everyone simply fall in line without question, it seems that the right has over-reacted by denying that any problem exists whatsoever. Rather than a normal thesis v antithesis = solution we’ve got a lot of non-communication cross-talk at the expense of ever finding a workable solution.

    So, what’s the right’s counter sin for lying and alarmism?

  4. There is no culture that understands better than the Italian culture, that more is not better, it is often worse. We are going to a REAL Italian pizza joint this evening. There is only one size pizza. There are a limited selection of toppings, and you cannot have more than 4 toppings on a pizza. I hear the Americans who think more is better and call it “Eyetalian” pizza complain. My bride has learned the Italian culture and we both chuckle @ the Ugly Americans. But, when they taste their pizza w/ just a couple toppings, many learn that less is often better. But, some never get it. “Scavuzza” is what my old man called them.

  8. Bam Bam, I totally agree that transgenderism seems like something that should be treated with intense psycotherapy rather than hormone injections and plastic surgery, especially when these medical interventions do not result in actually changing the patient’s gender — these surgeries can only get a person so far on their way to being a male or female.

    It has been said that gender dysphoria is the only psychological disorder in which the body is physically altered (some say mutilated) to fit what the mind mistakenly believes. This point was made in the South Park transgender episode when one of the characters had a dolphinoplasty to be surgically made to look like a dolphin, rather than receive psychotherapy therapy to come to terms with the fact that he was not nor could ever be a dolphin.

    This sort of thinking is labeled “transphobic” by the radical trans community on Tumblr. If they find this blog post, expect to be inundated with comments from an angry mob.

    “Change your mind, not your body” is the motto of the blogger quoted above in the “three types of parents” post. While this blogger holds some radical viewpoints, I agree with much of what she says and appreciate what she is doing to spread the word that parents and young females shouldn’t pin their hopes on transitioning to make them happy, powerful, safe or important. The women who transition often end up regretting the decision after it is far too late — and these stories of regret are often kept hidden by the trans community or by the patient due embarrassment and shame.

    The trans community seems to really be pushing girls to transition by portraying it as an exciting, empowering experience, and well meaning folks who want to be PC and inclusive jump right in and don’t do the intense questioning of this practice that they should — including eager-to-please parents and doctors who don’t bat an eye about prescribing testosterone shots to minors or to new patients they know little about. Find the right doctor, and all a patient has to do is state that they feel like should have been born a male, ask for “T” and they get their prescription. Then, post your video on YouTube about how great “T” has been for you. Be sure to leave out the part about aggression, acne, hair loss, PCOS, uterine infections, and increased risk for certain cancers and high blood pressure. The myth has been spread around Tumblr that all these all changes brought on by testosterone will go away if you simply stop taking “T.” These girls certainly need someone to debunk the misinformation that spreads online like wildfire.

  9. on 1, April 25, 2015 at 5:22 pmbam bam

    Who said to beat anybody? What part of intensive therapy denotes a beating?
    ******************************
    ” I can also imagine a scenario where a father gets the belt after young 8 year old Bobby for wearing a dress, and little Bobby decides to straighten up and quit engaging in that silly nonsense, and thus leads a happy and productive life.”- Squeeky@5:05 PM

  10. I. Annie

    Who said to beat anybody? What part of intensive therapy denotes a beating?

  12. Yep, beat the LGBT out of that kid with a belt. The therapy preferred by the ignorant and abusive.

  14. Young people kill themselves for all kinds of dumb reasons. In 1774 Goethe wrote, The Sorrows of Young Werther, about a young idiot who killed himself over unrequited love. He died wearing a blue coat and yellow pants, or maybe a yellow coat and blue pants. Whatever, my professor said there was a spate of youth suicides following the publication of the book, where the victims were wearing similar clothes, and that the book got banned in some countries for many years.

    Nobody knows for sure why some of these alleged trannie kids off themselves, and we don’t even know for sure if extra parental love would have made a difference. Many still off themselves even after they are accepted by everybody. I can also imagine a scenario where a father gets the belt after young 8 year old Bobby for wearing a dress, and little Bobby decides to straighten up and quit engaging in that silly nonsense, and thus leads a happy and productive life.

    Personally, I think all the suicide stuff was presented to get us all teary eyed and emotional where we couldn’t think straight.

    Squeeky Fromm
    Girl Reporter

  15. Juris, I’m sure there are some very loving and understanding parents of transgendered children. I posted some videos way upstream of transgendered children who have such parents, LUCKY them.

    Here’s, just one of those parents.

    http://youtu.be/mkHx_2dpEbw

  16. That may be so BamBam, but my purpose was not to indicate they NEED sex reassignment surgery. As I said they need love and understanding, even MORE so if there is another morphology present.

    1. I Annie

      I would argue that ALL human beings need love and understanding. I suppose that my difference, with you, is that my version of love and understanding, with respect to individuals suffering from a distorted self image is not to indulge that destructive path and to, instead, seek out the most qualified professional to address that problem. I would not seek out a professional who would urge me to acquiesce and support my anorexic child’s desire and drive to starve himself/herself, any more than I would seek out a professional that would encourage my child to believe that he/she is trapped in the wrong body.

      1. What if the “destructive path” is one that makes them feel like freaks and outcasts if they have gender dysmorphia? The stories of suicides are related to these feelings. Anorexia is not compatible with life. Truly gender dysmorphic children do have better outcomes if they can live as the gender they feel they are in their brains. Nature is mysterious, human sexuality is very complicated and there are people who do understand this condition and can help these parents and children.

  17. Juris, little boys have crushes in little girls and vice versa and same sex crushes in elementary school, even as young as age 6 or 7. I recall my now adult son having a mad crush on a cute little girl in his class. I don’t think it’s really that unusual.

    http://www.todaysparent.com/kids/school-age/how-to-handle-your-childs-first-crush/

    “One night last spring, as I was tucking my seven-year-old daughter in at bedtime, she started telling me about a boy in her class who liked her.

    How do you feel about him?” I asked after she’d recovered, remembering my own first crush in grade one, and the games of kiss-tag my girlfriends and I initiated with far-less-interested boys during recess in grade three.”

  18. “it’s to prove they need love and understanding first from their parents, then from society as a whole.”

    Annie, I don’t have time to review all your links/videos. But I find it hard to believe that each of their respective parents did not give them love and understanding.

  19. Max, I am guessing you meant “like men” as in the opposite sex and not actually men? That is awfully early. I remember being in 6th grade when I first became attracted to girls. I think that is around the age of 12. 6 or 7, really?

  20. BamBam, the articles I posted regarding suicide of transgendered teens isn’t to prove they need gender reassignment surgery, it’s to prove they need love and understanding first from their parents, then from society as a whole. What they chose to do with their own bodies when they are of age is their business, not ours.

    1. I. Annie

      Again, individuals who claim to be suicidal, need help–professional help. Example: Robin Williams–loved, adored and respected by the world. Happily married–allegedly–loved, adored and respected by his children.

      Despite all the love, adoration and understanding, still committed suicide. From what I read, he had issues with depression. These transgendered kids, I would argue, have other problems that need to be addressed.

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