Park Avenue lawyer James R. Ray, 50, is the subject of a bizarre allegation that he pressured his female paralegal to be his “third wife.” Sarbrina Rafi, 27, make the allegation in a sexual harassment complaint in which she says that Ray boasts of multiple wives and referred to her ethnic background in making her ideal for his third spouse. As lead counsel in the Sister Wives case, I am not sure of how Park Avenue Polygamy works, but this (if true) sounds more like simple sexual harassment than a consensual plural relationship.
The complaint also details a bizarre dinner at a Korean restaurant where Rafi says Ray pressured her to accept his proposal and even insisted that she feed him with chopsticks.
Rafi recently graduated law school and took a job as a paralegal.
Her complaint details how Ray allegedly bragged about being “married to multiple women” and the value of the “polygamist lifestyle.” It also alleges that a female co-worker was fired for refusing to discuss sex and polygamy. Rafi further says that he pushed her to discuss lesbian porn and added “It was humiliating for me to sit there with this much older man forcing me to feed him his food.”
He eventually fired Rafi.
Ray is described on his firm’s website:
The firm’s founder, James Ray, Esq., has extensive experience in media and entertainment, negotiating contracts for film directors and producers, as well as musical artists.
As a former boxing promoter, restaurant owner, and college professor, Mr. Ray brings considerable knowledge and perspective to each case or transaction he gets involved in. Mr. Ray is currently writing a book entitled Entrepreneurship: Paradigm for Success.
I assume that allegedly pressuring women into polygamous relationships is not part of that “paradigm of success.” It will be interesting to see how the bar reacts to the lawsuit and whether it will open an investigation into allegations that are incompatible with being a licensed attorney. Generally such sexual harassment cases are treated as private claims. However, in this case there is an alleged pattern of the mistreatment of female employees.
The fact is that such conduct, if true, has little to do with polygamy — any more than the many adulterers undermine monogamy as an institution. These allegations suggest someone who is clearly unable to maintain a monogamous relationship and someone who is unable to maintain a professional relationship with women.
Source: NY Post